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Dear Dra Holmes:

My bf and I broke up before he came back to the Phils. We still had sex on the first day we met. Despite this intimacy, he was clear that he still wanted to end things. It was hard at first but with enough courage I decided to let him go so I can move on.

I was scared I was pregnant because my period is delayed, so I called him.

Right away he said kaya nya panagutan. He wants to give the baby a good family unlike him who grew up without a father.

He wants to fix our relationship for the baby. I took another pregnancy test and it’s negative. He said I should try it again.

He is only 24 and he just started his career. I’m confused. Does he still love me or does he want me for the baby? Angela

Dear Angela:
Maraming salamat sa sulat mo na una nating pi-nublish ng buo noong nkaraang Lunes, Setyembre 2, 2019. Sa huling kolum nating noong Septiembre 4, sinabi ko na kung hindi ka buntis, kailangang makipag break up ka sa kanya. Maagkasama pa kayo ngayon dahil akala niya buntis ka.
Pero ano kung buntis ka? Mgbabago ba ang desisyon mo? Sabi ng ama ng bata na gusto niyang may magandang kinabukasan ang anak niya dahil nasa buhay niya ang tatay niya, di kagaya ng childhood ng niya.
Pero, Angela, maaari pa rin siyang maging malaking bahagi sa buhay ng anak niya kahit hindi kayo kasal. At maaari pa ring maganda ang inyong samahan, bilang magkaibigan, bilang magulang ng anak ninyo, kahit hindi kayo “man at wife.” Sa aking opinyon, mas mabuting hindi magpakasal kasi klaro na kung wala kayong anak, hindi kayo magsasama. Kung magbabago ang desisyon niya at guso niyang magsama kayo, may pagka-obvious na ang gusto niyang malapit sa kanya ay hindi ikaw, pero ang anak ninyo. Maaaring tumagal ang inyong samahan, pero hindi ito tatagal dahil mahal ka niya. Mas maiging maghiwalay pa rin kayo kahit na may anak kayo, dahil sa ganitong panahon, kayong dalawa ay makakahanap (kung ‘yan ang gusto mo) ng taong tunay na magmamahal sa’yo. Ingat — MG Holmes
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Si Dra Holmes ay nagsusulat sa Abante tuwing Lunes, Miyerkoles at Biyernes at sa TONITE tuwing Sabado at Linggo. Panoorin siya sa Sex Talks with Dr Holmes sa streaming app HOOQ. Sulatan siya sa Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/drmargieholmes.

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