Walang gana ang asawa ko sa sex
Dear Dra Holmes:
Everything about our marriage is perfect, except for sex.
Wala syang sexual urge. Hindi naman sya gay. He admits na it’s his mind who’s not in sync with wanting it. The last time we did was last December.
What complicates it more is he’s a very touchy partner. Ma-kiss, mayakap.. expressive. His testosterone and sperm count are normal. He loses his focus as fast as like 10-15 minutes.
He said wala daw talaga syang problem sa akin. He finds me attractive, crush pa din daw nya ako and he still finds me sexy kaya daw sya madalas mag hug and kulit.
He’s honest even it sounds blunt: sasabihin nya pag ayaw nya. Example, ayaw na ayaw nya na babae ang nagiinitiate ng sex. Because of this, maswerte na kung may mangyare sa amin every 2 months, or 3, and this time, 5.
Imagine getting married twice, celebrating happily and going on a honeymoon twice.. without making love. Not even making out. When we were dating pa, I don’t mind having that. Kaso now that were married, medyo nagiging issue na sya. Kaya po nag pacheck na po kami. Pero wala namang problema sa katawan nya. Alam nya rin pala yun sa sarili nya. Halimbawa bago sya umuwi from work, kinokondisyon nya utak nya na he wants to make love to his wife. Tapos, maiistress sya sa byahe nya pauwi, ayun the interest on making love is gone in an instant.
I feel unwanted, and he can’t do anything about it.
We have physical needs as a normal person and habang inaaddress ko yung feeling on my own, nakakababa po ng self-worth. Hindi po sya nagkukulang sa other things, pero di po natin maaalis yung need for physical intimacy, right? lahat na po ginawa ko. Sya naman po naffrustrate dahil sobrang mahal daw po nya asawa nya pero hindi nya magawa yun.
Never ko po naranasan na ako pa yung naghahanap ng sex sa partner. And with several tries na ako po ang nag initiate and got rejected, it adds up to the pain that I have deep within. Jocelyn
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