Walang Bolahan: Sexually attracted sa sister in law (8)
Dear Dra. Holmes:
I think I have a disorder and I am desperate for some help. I developed a sexual affinity for my younger sister-in-law who lives with us.
I am happily married for 9 years with a loving wife and three sons. I fantasized about my sister-in-law and recently I attempted to peep on her while she was showering.
I got caught.
I have lost all myself respect and dignity. I sincerely apologized to her and told her that, if she feels uncomfortable, she can stop living with us.
She said she will go back to her house and think about it since she was traumatized and has lost all her respect for me. I completely understand.
I am not a sex addict and I think I can change at will. It’s just that I am so ashamed of myself and I do not know what to do. I know if I tell my wife, it will be the end of my career and my happy marriage. Btw, my sex life with my wife is good.
I am in deep regret right now and cannot function properly.
I treated her like my own sister and family. It’s just that all our time together has made me have sexual intentions toward her. I get squeamish every time I recall what I did and how I betrayed everyone’s trust. Please help.
Maraming salamat sa sulat mo. May pagka komplikado ito dahil maraming tao ang involved sa iba’t ibang ‘status’ nila, pero susubukan kong gawin lahat para matulungan kita.
Ang ibig kong sabihin sa ‘ibang status’ ay na iba ang kalagayan ninyo sa buhay hindi kayo magkapantay.
Ang iyong hipag (tawagin natin siyang Rosie) ay nakikitira ‘lang’ sa inyo. Ibig sabihin ay siya ay may utang na loob dahil sa inyong kabaitan. Hindi ninyo kailangang pumayag na tumira siya sa inyo, pero ginawa ninyo ‘yan.
Nabanggit ko lang ito dahil may kinalaman ito sa magiging bahagi ng solusyon ng inyong problema.
At totoo, ito ay hindi iyong problema lamang, pero problema ng buong pamilya, kasama na ang iyong asawa.
Kaya ang una mong kailangang isipin ay: Ano ang mas mahalaga sa akin, ang kalaliman at pagpatuloy na pagmamahal naming mag-asawa para sa isa’t isa o na hindi niya malaman ang nangyari? (To Be Continued)
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