WALANG BOLAHAN: Schizophrenia (15)

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Dear Dra. Holmes,

Jane was almost my sister, she grew up with us. Papa tried to touch her. Jane told Mama but Mama just told her to be careful. She’s feeding the child to a monster!

Mama hired a teenage girl and told me it’s Papa’s new ‘consumo’ (prey); that’s why he’s not bothering Jane anymore.

But Mama kicked her out because Mama told me “lakwachera” (lay about), though eventually admitting she thought girl is pregnant with Papa.

Two months ago, when mama went out of town, she called me that I will just let Jane sleep in my house. Papa tried to touch her again.

I brought her to the police, Papa was arrested.

Mama said it’s fine, just do whatever I think is right. But Mama never came home, leaving me the burden processing the case for Papa.

Jane’s testimony was shocking. Started when she was 9 (she’s 13 now). Blow jobs and swallowing his dirt was his favorite act. Papa’s waiting for his subpoena; is under restraining order so he can’t get near us.

What’s wrong with my mom? I hate Mama for what she’s done! I think she is the root cause of this! Is she just weak? — Alyssa

Dear Alyssa,


Maraming salamat sa e-mail mo, na una nating pinublish ng buo noong nakaraang Lunes, Pebrero 27.

Sa huling kolum natin noong nakaraang Biyernes, Marso 10, sinabi ko na matindi ang galit mo sa nanay mo at ang tingin mo ay siya ang ugat ng inyong mga problema.

Ang mga sikolohista ay ‘di dapat maghusgada dahil mahirap makatulong sa sinumang hinuhusgada namin. Pero ikaw ang ­aking sinusulatan at hindi ang nanay mo.

Ikaw ang aking gustong tulungan, hindi ang nanay mo.

Kung posibleng tulu­ngan ka­yong dalawa, bakit hindi? Pero sa sitwasyon na ito, palagay ko hindi ko pwedeng matulungan ka­yong dalawa.

Una, dahil hindi humingi ng tulong ang nanay mo sa akin; ikalawa, dahil sa tingin ko hindi pa handa ang nanay mong matulungan; at ikatlo, ang tulong na maibibigay ko sa iyo ay maaaring lalong maka-alab (make your anger worse/more intense) sa iyong galit.

Bilang sikolohista, ako ay may tungkuling magsabi ng totoo, kahit na kung ang katotohanan ay hindi ko alam ang sagot ng mga tanong mo. TO BE CONTINUED

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Si Dra. Holmes ay nagsusulat sa Abante tuwing Lunes, Miyerkules at Biyernes.

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