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I no longer ghost people

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Dear Dra. Holmes:

(shortened October 9 letter)

When I was in college, I was really sexually active. I would see multiple people at the same time and go to bed with them. I would ghost them for different reasons. One time I hooked up with a guy with a really bad breath. It was so awful. I just gave him a blowjob for it to be over. I met another guy who looked nothing like his picture on Tinder. There was also a guy who came agad even when we were just making out. Of course, I ghosted them all.

I feel so guilty now. Should I go back to each person ghosted to apologize for doing this like they suggest in AA? I am happy with my sex life.
Jenn

Dear Jenn:

Maraming salamat sa sulat mo. Ayon sa mga ibang tao na gumagamit ng mga dating app, tsamba-tsamba lang ‘yun. Minsan, makakasuwerte ka na mabait, matino, at hindi ­sinungaling ang matatagpuan mo rito. Minsan naman ­mamalasin ka at hindi sila kasing bait at makatotohanan katulad ng iba at iyong gusto. Alam na ‘yan ng mga gumagamit nito.

Sa aking opinyon, wala kang ginawang masama sa ganitong klaseng ghosting. Alam nila ang maaaring mangyari na maganda at alam din nila ang maaaring mangyari na hindi maganda.

Masasabi siguro nila na hindi maganda ang karanasan nila noong ­nagkasama kayo pero kung sinubukan din nilang mag-isip kung bakit ka biglang nang ghost. Ang ibig kong sabihin ay maaari rin nilang gamitin ang karanasan na iyon bilang opurtinidad para maging aral tungkol sa kanilang kakulangan pagdating sa kanilang dating personality.

In other words, ginawa mo na para sa kanila ang magagawa mo. ­Hindi mo naman sila sinadyang saktan, pagtsismisan, o ­pagsinungalingan. ­Totoong hindi mo sinabi ang rason o katotohanan kung bakit ka biglang nang ghost subalit hindi rin kita masisi dahil rito.

Dahil under the circumstances ginawa mo ang kailangan mong gawin noon at hindi mo kailangang humingi ng tawad sa kanila. Ingat! — MG Holmes

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Si Dra. Holmes ay nagsusulat sa Abante tuwing Lunes, ­Miyerkoles at Biyernes at sa TONITE tuwing Sabado at ­Linggo. Sulatan siya sa Facebook: ­http://www.facebook.com/drmargieholmes.

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